“This seems a bit unfair”
Actually, A, this is an incredible point I actually want to bring attention to. Dan brought this up here as well.
First, a clarification — when I say “using the word ‘we’ is a red flag,” I mean it’s a sign for me to dig further. When I’m interviewing I‘m not looking for an arrogant person, but trying to judge competency. Separating the resume from the human being is a difficult task in a 30-minute meeting.
Generally (with both men and women), I’ve found there are 2 types of people who use “we” in a job interview:
- The type who has nothing to offer and is clutching at anything which makes them look like they fit the position.
- The type who is a rock star but modest.
In a job interview, all I ever want is honesty. If you are unqualified, I need to know as soon as possible. But I also need to know if you ARE qualified.
Yes, women do have a harder time parading their own accomplishments, and that’s one of the reasons why when I hear a “we,” I go after it.
Thank you for giving me a chance to elaborate :)