“Who writes this selfish, new age garbage?”
I scanned the response, thinking (for some reason) about the little emoji girl who raises her hand.
Me. I wrote that garbage.
Last week I wrote a post that got Top-10-in-the-world huge. But with every victory comes criticism.
And I got plenty.
But that’s cool. I can play both sides:
To what I believe in.
To who I want to be.
To the woman who loves me no matter what.
To the not so fun details.
To the extra mile.
To the stuff I don’t know will pay off.
The answer is yes.
I say no to the things that don’t matter so I can say yes to the thousands of people who gave a few minutes out of their precious lives to read something I made up.
What I didn’t talk about much in that article was the time I said “no” to a well-paying internship in computer science to work at a summer camp.
Because I loved the people there.
Or the time I said “no” to a job for a multi-billion dollar company that would have paid probably double what I’m making now because I wanted extra time to work on my career as a writer.
Both soul-tearing, agonizing “no’s.” I didn’t know if they were the right choices. Heck, I still don’t know if they were the right choices.
But I said this in the original article and I’ll say it again — “No” isn’t about abandoning your relationships in order to chase an invisible dream.
It’s about making time for things which mean the most to you, whether it’s a person or a drawing or an idea.
Yes, there are sacrifices. But Life is sacrifice.
Say yes to the things which make you come alive.
Say yes to the opportunities that make you happy, not the ones that make you dollars.
Say yes to the people who make you a better version of yourself.
Because I’m willing to bet you know what you want to do. You know which things stir your soul.
The whole point of saying no to some good things is so you can say “yes” to the best things — the things which are uniquely you.
You craft yourself. You do it every day with every single choice you make.
So farm out the stuff that doesn’t matter so much. Get rid of the mundane. Chop and hack and cry and apologize and politely decline and say no.
And then, when the path is clear:
P.S. While you’re here, you may as well say “Yes” to my newsletter as well ;)